Um... Love!?

I don't understand the big deal with love. I do understand it's a magical thing, and I love magical things. BUT, why do we prioritize romantic love over everything? I would never know since I've never been in a relationship nor do I want to right now even though I know I am a romantic. I am just 17, I have a whole life before me. But that's why I am asking please someone help me understand why romantic love is considered greater than (All these are only applicable if they are toxic free relationships) your family - who might do everything for you, or your friends - who stick by you through everything.

I get the point of intimacy and physical contact. BUT WHY DO YOU PRIORITISE PHYSICAL INTIMACY OVER EVERYTHING ELSE? Okay so some of you might be thinking... She's lying, she's gone through a breakup now or has her heart crushed by a crush and that's why she has the need to rant. No. You are absolutely wrong. I was just reminded of a friend who I was very close to.

But again it might be because I read a lot of romance and I am a romantic by heart, so when I see people around me with less then perfect romantics relationships , It makes me like the IDEA of romance more than the act itself. Maybe. And then there are people who feel the need to be in a relationship, dependent on someone because that's all they have ever known or because everyone around them is involved romantically and they feel left out or because valentines day is coming up. You don't need a romantic love. Valentines day is for love. All kinds of love. Affection for your parents, your siblings, your friends and YOURSELF.

Okay now getting back to topic. The word love always reminds me of her - my friend. She had a toxic boyfriend. I did tell her , but she did not listen and later ended up breaking up with him. But that's not the whole thing. I was used as an excuse for them to talk or meet every single time for a solid 6-8 months as her parents did not know of them. I was sick of it. When they broke-up, she got into another relationship who manipulated her with self pity. She then got back with the toxic guy later on. Now is it my fault that I wanted to distance myself from this? Should I have helped her and been a 'good friend'? Someone help me. Even though I dont regret confronting her about this and getting away from being used as an excuse by her, I still think about it. Tbh I could have done it in a better manner instead of suddenly ignoring her but I am very sensitive about being vulnerable to people - However close I considered them to be. Why am I ranting about this?

1. After her first bf, she craved a relationship so much that she got into another bad one

2. She left the new guy for the toxic bf again

3. She did not tell me anything for a good month or so. Literally everyone else knew.

Again, I have never been in a relationship. But shouldn't this make atleast some sense? Is this love?

While on Pinterest, I read an old tweet. It read and I quote, "I used to really feel the loss of friends or romantic partners because I loved them and things felt magical. Then I realized I see the best in everybody. They weren't the magic, I was". This really struck me. Maybe I was going about love totally wrong. If it's meant to be, you'll find love. You need to put effort into your relationships but you can still love. Romantic or not.

Ahhhh its all frustrating. A rant doesn't have to make sense right. So here you go. A peek into how I am.

Well Happy valentines day reader mellos!!

We love you!!

Signing off,

Hope